Thursday, September 28, 2017

From the website...Verywell. Stop getting in the way of your own happiness

Brain-Defying Tip: Be your own devil’s advocate. When you sense a trouble area in your life, reflect and identify any beliefs you have that are part of the problem.
Name the belief and ask yourself the questions that a lawyer would who was trying to prove you wrong.

Brain-Defying Tip: Broaden your perspective. When you imagine a future event affecting your happiness, remind yourself of all the other areas of your life that will be humming along with their joys and challenges. Family. Career. Friends. Health. When we see how future events fit into the context our bigger lives, we more accurately assess how we’ll respond emotionally to them.

Brain-Defying Tip: Know when to call it quits. If you’re questioning a current goal or path you’ve been investing in, ask yourself, “If I could start fresh right now, would I still choose this?” If not, consider what other choices you might realistically make that would be better, and if a smart, inspired option exists, consider quitting the path you’re on and making a choice that honors your happiness instead  

Wednesday, September 27, 2017


 “If your moral ideas can be true, and those of the Nazis less true,” Lewis wrote in 1952, “there must be something — some Real Morality — for them to be true about.” The moral law, he argued, was revealed in nature and known by reason.

This just makes sense to me. Otherwise we are just folks with opinions. And though you could argue that obviously some opinions are better, or more humane etc than others, look at the Nazi regime....they believed they were right and were willing to die for that belief.

So we just can't trust our innate humanity to help us make "good moral" decisions, it has to have a standard to rub up against to clarify our motives. And most of us have motives. And that standard must be God. And though we may differ on what we think God is all about, I believe sincere prayer will help clarify that for those that are open to hearing an unselfish voice....

God has been used through history for heinous acts and some folks don't even need that excuse for commit unspeakable crimes. But that only intensifies the real need to have a dialogue with Him. You can pray for others and yourself to have clarity, to act unselfishly and to live your best life...knowing you will sometimes fail. but you would be much worse off if you never sought His help in the first place, and so would the world around you.

p.s. Some folks believe in a god, but not a personal one. My dad fell into this category and struggled much of his life with needing Him and not believing he was worthy of His love. He drank himself to death. But as he lay dying, he asked for the God to be his God and died in peace. I often think of the man he might have been had he asked for Grace earlier in his life  but he tried to go it alone. He was worthy all along, but never realized it. Even in his alcoholism, he was loved but our love was enough. I am grateful he saw the answer at the end of his life. And at the last, he let that terrible burden he carried down...i just wish he had realized sooner he didn't have to carry it alone.

Wednesday, September 20, 2017

Faith and Science...a partnership in discovery

Throughout the ages people have always tried to make sense of the world and of their lives through an understanding of history, science, and faith. We still do this now as we have done so for as long as humans have walked the planet. We create theories, hypotheses, and beliefs to help us understand our world and answer the challenging questions that we all entertain about why we are here and the meaning and purpose of our lives, our sufferings, and our both good and bad fortunes.

Albert Einstein once famously stated that "Science without religion is lame. Religion without science is blind." I for one agree with him completely. Religion and science, regardless of what you read about in the newspapers as it relates to these conflicts, can very much co-exist quite well. For example, I think of some of my colleagues who are Jesuit priests or Catholic deacons who have PhDs in engineering, physics, chemistry, biology, and even astrophysics who have no trouble with embracing both science and religious perspectives.
At the end of the day, science and religion don't necessarily have all the answers to all of our questions and so we must be humble and compassionate with each other in order to not only co-exist but to thrive together. Rather than attacking and insulting those who have views different than ours perhaps we should focus more on how we all struggle to make sense of our world and being without having all of the answers that we desire. More compassion and less passion for our beliefs might be called for. 
As I came to appreciate very long ago, the more you learn the more you realize how much you don't know. The more knowledge you have of both science and religion the more humbling it is to realize that there are so many more questions than answers out there. 
from Psychology Today the seasons of life

“Without changing our patterns of thought, we will not be able to solve the problems created with our current pattern of thought.”

Monday, September 18, 2017

Marc and Angel Hack Life....nuggets of wisdom

You can’t lose what you never had, you can’t keep what’s not yours, and you can’t hold on to something that does not want to stay.

 Too often we waste our time waiting for the ideal path to appear, but it never does, because we forget that paths are made by walking, not waiting. 

Monday, September 11, 2017

Quality over quantity....

“Associate yourself with people of good quality, for it is better to be alone than in bad company.” —Booker T. Washington

Monday, September 4, 2017

Focus your energies...Write A Life Mission Statement

From Sharon Able's Blog: The Simply Luxurious Life

1. Clarity about what you welcome into your life: What do you value? What do you not value?
2. Self-knowledge: When do you feel at your best? your worst? What are your strengths? What causes you pain?
3. Work: What aspects/tasks/responsibilities do you love? dislike?
4. Behavior: What behavior are you drawn to and most admire and appreciate in others? What behavior are you most proud of in yourself?
5. Dreams for the future: What do you hope your legacy will be? What is the biggest, most frequent dream you have about your life that refuses to leave your mind?
6. Well-Being: What physical, mental, social and spiritual activities renew, refresh and return you to your best?
Key components:
  • Be clear: more concrete, less abstract or general (view The Smithsonian’s Mission Statement for examples of specificity)
  • Be succinct: fewer words are better (see Oprah’s example above)
  • Add your personality: write with your voice (i.e. Ben & Jerry’s mission statement: “Making the best possible ice cream, in the nicest possible way”)
  • Be inspired: write something that prompts you to take action each time you read it (Amanda Steinberg, founder of “To use my gifts of intelligence, charisma, and serial optimism to cultivate the self-worth and net-worth of women around the world.”)
One of the most significant take-aways for me when I began with the structure provided by Franklin-Covey, but then tweaked it after reading Gretchen Rubin’s design was to be okay with not achieving everything. Why? What I realized was that much of what I wanted to achieve was because I thought I had to. In other words, there were some goals I was focused on that I wasn’t passionate about but perhaps would be applauded by the outside world.
One suggestion Rubin makes is to focus on what you do well and strengthen your talents rather than dilute the finite energy you have as you spread yourself thin to learn every skill you have the opportunity to acquire. One of the directives in my mission statement is included in Rubin’s statement as well and states, “Do more of what I can do uniquely and less of what others can do.” Ultimately, that is the power of a mission statement: It focuses your attention on what you can do well and enables you to reach your fullest potential and experience true contentment as you realize what you are capable of achieving. 

Friday, September 1, 2017

What to do when you don't feel good enough...From Darling Magazine

I have a proposition, an experiment, if you will. Next time you’re feeling a little empty and self-conscious, don’t run to a mirror or your phone to fill yourself up. Try this: Be beautiful in your actions. Tell someone else they’re gorgeous. Compliment someone’s smile. Help someone struggling down the stairs with a heavy suitcase or stroller. Write yourself a list of reasons why you’re proud to be who you are. Call your mother and tell her what inspires you about her. Call your father or your brother or your sister and say thank you: thank you for simply existing.
Rather than curating your social feed with beautiful images, curate your life with beautiful, human moments. The effects of these actions will have a much longer lifespan than simply distracting yourself from self-conscious thoughts.
You can’t Snapchat these moments because they are real, they are fleeting and they are of monumental impact. These moments are the foundation of true inner beauty that will shine outward, and you don’t have to worry about matching them to your skin tone.
From Darling, The Art of Being A Woman

Ten Good Quotes from Marc and Angel

1. Everything is created twice, first in the mind and then in reality. So pay close attention to the thoughts you choose. They have a way o...